Maybe Another Word for Indecision

The Daily Post Prompt: Write a new post in response to today’s one-word prompt. Maybe   images-3-min

Don’t you hate it when someone puts you on the spot with an unexpected invitation? I do and like many people tend to fall back on the old reliable, “Maybe.”

It’s a word (answer) we believe will help get us out of making a decision or a commitment we’re certain, in the back of our minds, we aren’t, can’t, or won’t  keep. We don’t want to hurt feelings so,  “Maybe” gives us a way out. Only, it’s not a way out; it’s indecision.

“Decision is a sharp knife that cuts clean and straight. Indecision a dull one that hacks and tears and leaves ragged edges behind it.” Gordon Graham Tweet this

Now, I’m not preaching to the choir or holding myself up as a decision guru. When I worked, my decisions were quick and decisive, but take me out to dinner and this is what my decisions look like.”Maybe” has be2011-05-10-at-a-restaurant-minen my fall guy for many years.

“Maybe” has been my fall guy for many times. But, here’s the thing, it also leaves jagged edges behind.

Invitations stop, projects lay unfinished, and feelings are hurt. As I’ve gotten older, I do my best, to be honest with myself and say, “no” instead of “maybe.”  It isn’t always easy, but I have encouragement from one of my all-time favorite resources – a book by Manuel J. Smith, Ph.D.

When I say no, I feel guilty.  Since the day I discovered this book, I have kept it close by for easy access and referral. The very from page includes a Bill of Assertive Rights.

“You have the right to say, really No, without feeling guilty.” Manuel J. Smith Ph.D. Tweet this

The next time you’re tempted to say “maybe” want to say, “No” – be true to yourself; you have that right.

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12 thoughts on “Maybe Another Word for Indecision

  1. I really love your post. Years ago a wrote an unpublished workbook called “Saying and Hearing No and Feeling Okay”. I’ve been thinking about putting all or part of that workbook on my blog… as a series of posts. After reading your post I will think more seriously about doing that.

    It also reminded me of how my co-therapists and I teach clients to be direct and not use words and phrases that minimize what they are thinking or saying such as maybe, just, kind of, sort of, possibly, etc.

    Thanks for giving me new ideas to ponder first thing in the morning.

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  2. Whenever I would say “maybe” to the girls, I’d get eye rolls because they knew it meant no. But now I never have trouble making decisions. Unless you count writing 3 different stories at once because I flit around like a butterfly from subject to subject. Sigh… time to flip my two headed coin. LOL

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    • Absolutely! Imagine a two letter word being so difficult to utter. It’s as difficult as saying, “sorry,” but if we’re to be true to who we are, we must learn to say it. Thanks for reading Mark. It’s always good to see you in the pasture.

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    • Aw, good point. We are continually explaining ourselves. One of my favorite techniques learned from the book I mentioned, is the “Broken Record.” When pushed to explain a position (No), repeat the exact same sentence until they stop asking. The key is to keep the sentence exactly the same. For Example, “I won’t be able to attend, I have other plans.) Glad to see you in the Cow Pasture and thanks for joining the conversation.

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  3. An incredibly important post & life-lesson. Written in a very conversational, down-to-Earth tone that I believe is perfect for this piece.
    It is difficult to say ‘no’ bluntly to things, so we tend to avoid the question altogether, but that can lead to undesirable consequences that indecision brings. Thank you for the book reference –I will check it out on Goodreads. 🙂

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  4. How true, I’m the world’s worst for saying “maybe” and at my age I really should stop, I’ve passed the age of eighteen, I’m a grown adult, I have the right to say “no” and not feel guilty.

    A very thought provoking post 🙂

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