The Heavy Weight of Perfectionism

My name is Sheila, and I am a perfectionist.

The experts say this personality trait comes from one’s childhood. For me, that’s probably true. My mom, God rest her soul, taught me, from an early age, to do things right the first time. Or, do it over until I could do it right the first time. Want to know the best way to clean windows, grout, baseboards or window seals?  Gotcha covered, but that’s another post.

Even at this late stage in my life, I continue to struggle with having everything “perfect.” This is especially true as it relates to writing.  That’s why my WIP, 40,000 words in, is still unfinished. This is not a trait of which I’m proud. Striving for perfection will suck the life out of your soul if allowed to run unchecked. At times it weighs me down, and I miss out on being present with the people and life happening around me.

The Perils of Perfection. It is well worth a read and thoughtful consideration.

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What about you? How many on her list could you check in the affirmative? Are you a perfectionist? Me? I’m ready to ease up and relax.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject. Join the conversation. Talk to me or tell me your story. I’m all ears.

8 thoughts on “The Heavy Weight of Perfectionism

  1. Well, you know we are both cut from the same cloth. Perfection follows me around like toilet paper on a shoe. Aggravating as hell. Example, add 3k words to WIP and then drag 5k to the trash folder. Sigh… 2 steps forward and 3 steps back.

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  2. I must confess, I’m a perfectionist. I see it as a blessing and a curse. I have always excelled in everything I put my hands on, because I strived for perfection. I also allowed the fact that things weren’t what I considered perfect to hold me back in many areas. The fear of imperfection and not being good enough is the last thing an aspiring author needs. Fortunately my desire to succeed, out weighs my desire for perfection. It all becomes a balancing act. A compromise of sorts.

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    • That’s so true. For me, I believe that trait helped me through many times in my life when the going got really rocky. It kept me focused and strong. There’s good and bad in everything. I agree, moderation is the key, but how many perfectionists know what moderation is or how to pull back on the reins. 🙂 Thanks for reading and joining the conversation.

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