Making Connections

 

It isn’t news to anyone, the last year and a half has been trying, isolating, confusing, and damn right depressing. We’ve had to acquiesce, adjust, change … whatever – pick a verb – to a different way of life.

I’m not here to discuss the pros, cons, or any of the contradictions, theories, or suppositions about where we all now find ourselves, but to talk about a few observations.

People are crying out for connections.

It’s funny after turning into a society that has forgotten how to read facial expressions and largely communicates through text & emojis, we find ourselves craving to see each other and have a real conversation.

The masks, whatever you believe about their merits have robbed us of the very things we took for granted. They obscure the most important part of us in which we communicate – our facial expressions, a smile, a grimace, a frown, or a look of pleasure.

Suddenly, I find myself focusing on the eyes – the window to the soul as they say. I listen harder because words are muffled behind masks. I watch for a furrowed brow, brimming, squinted, or narrowed eyes. I listen to the tone of their voice. Is it pitched, low, loving, angered, or just tired?

I’ve become an active listener. We all have out of necessity.

On occasion, I meet someone without a mask. I don’t rush to judgment or ask about their vaccination status. I’m not afraid but thrilled to see a face and 99% of the time, a smiling face, eager to converse greets me back. I smile and speak and they respond. There’s an openness, a hunger to connect and we do.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a stranger in an elevator, on the street, in a store, or a nail salon – I feel an immediate connection. Sometimes, it’s brief and sometimes it stretches into minutes or hours. It’s as if neither of us wants it to end. It’s been so long, but we’re paying attention now. We’re looking for those opportunities. We’re really listening; not twiddling with our phones, or distracted. We’re hanging on to that moment of human-to-human connection as if by a thread.

These are difficult times, but we need each other. We need to connect, look each other in the eye, focus on the words we exchange, the stories we share, and cherish every connection.

We are not each other’s adversaries. We don’t all march to the same tune, but we are all the same and our connections make the world a better place.

We’re all in this together. Don’t ride it out in fear or alone. You’re not alone. We’re all right here, ready and eager to make connections.

 

 

’d love to hear your comments. Talk to me. Tell me your story. I’m all ears and look for me on Facebook Page at SheilaMcIntyreGood, PinterestBloglovinTwitter@sheilamgood, Contently, and Instagram. You can follow my reviews on Amazon and Goodreads.

 

 

When Life Hands You Lemons

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You may have noticed a few new items on the Cow Pasture Chronicles header and sidebar – specifically, CPC Contributors. Already, I have two wonderful authors who plan over the next few months to share their thoughts and expertise with all of you. Jean Cogdell and  Granonine. If you’re unfamiliar with these authors, you can find out more about them by reading their Bios listed in the sidebar.

So, why am I recruiting contributors to the Cow Pasture

  1. I believe others expertise, stories, and words benefit us all.
  2. It’s an opportunity to meet new authors and writers.
  3. Contributors will provide a more expansive knowledge base.
  4. But, I gotta be honest with you; the biggest reason I’m recruiting contributors is to help me out during a tough time ahead. Let me explain.

When Life Hands You Lemons – Make Lemonade

Beginning December 1st, I will be away from the Cow Pasture for a few months. I will be having thumb replacement/carpal tunnel surgery on my dominant hand. That means, writing on anything is not going to happen. The recovery will be extensive, complicated, and long.

You are important to me. I hope you’ve gained something by following and it’s important that I not just disappear quietly into the night. Of course, those who know me understand that’s never going to happen – :-).

Here’s my Plan

  1. I’ll schedule as many posts ahead of time as possible.
  2. You may see a few older posts – which is not a bad idea; not every reader will have had the opportunity to see some of those.
  3. And, you will have the opportunity to read from my guest bloggers.

I’m asking for your help.

If any of you are interested in participating as a CPC Contributor, please check out the links at the top of my page. Joining the Cow Pasture Chronicles Team will give you the opportunity to broaden your audience and meet new people.

For those of you wondering what the surgery is all about, I’ve provided a video link –  be forewarned – the video is graphic; after all it’s surgery. So, before you click, make sure you have the stomach.

To My Readers:

Thank you for being a faithful follower. I appreciate each one of you and have learned as much from you as I hope you’ve learned from me. I hope you will hang around, continue to jump over the fence and take a stroll through the Cow Pasture – you may be surprised the treasures awaiting.

Join the Cow Pasture Chronicles TeamI’d love to have you on board.

Talk to me. Tell me your story and look for me on Facebook at SheilaMGood,  PinterestBloglovinTwitter@sheilamgood, Contently, and Instagram. You can follow my reviews on Amazon and Goodreads.

Stats Reveal How to connect With Your Readers

The Daily Prompt: The Stat Connection

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Go to your Stats page and check your top 3-5 posts. Why do you think they’ve been successful? Find the connection between them, and write about it.

Stats for the Cow Pasture Chronicles in 2015:

Views: 5,968
Vistors: 3,365

Top 3 Posts in 2015:

  1. Home Page/Archives – 1,137 views
  2. Submit or Not to Submit – This post had a total of 472 views.
  3. Top 5 Resources for Contests and Submissions – 310 views
  4. About Me  – 162 views
  5. Access Denied – received  116 views.

Top views went to the home page which includes the archives and my latest post. It’s the first impression point of connection. The other posts ranking highest in views offered information.

Writers at all levels understand the value of submitting work for publication. Submit or Not to Submit discussed the time-consuming but necessary tasks, outlined the benefits, and cautions of taking the leap of sending your words out into the world.

Top 5 Resources for Contests and Submissions takes the work out of the submission process by providing 5 resources for the writer who is ready to submit. Putting yourself out there can be intimidating, but the rewards are worth the anxiety. Acceptance promotes confidence, encourages creativity, is one of the best avenues for perfecting the craft, and provides both validation and recognition.

Readers want to know who you are, your credentials, and why your blog exists. An engaging About Me page not only introduces you to your readers, but provides the personal connection so necessary in drawing readers to your blog.

I like tackling difficult topics and Access Denied is one of those posts. Providing  information on the intellectual rights of a writer’s work and how to secure those rights,  after you’re gone.

What was the Connection?  In a word information.

Writers, particularly newer writers, seek out  information that is beneficial to them. Whether it helps them improve the skill of writing or offers the chance for recognition.

3 Things I  Learned by Reviewing the Stats:

  1. My readers want information, even if they’ve heard it before.
  2. Readers want easy access to the resources that help them improve or succeed.
  3. Providing resources and information into the readers mailbox is a win-win for everyone.

What are your blog stats saying about you? What did you learn and will you change the types of posts you write?

I’d love to hear your comments. Talk to me. Tell me your story and look for me on Facebook at SheilaMGood,  PinterestBloglovinTwitter@sheilagood, and Contently.

Delayed Contact – Healthy Debates

Daily Post Prompt : Delayed Contact

How would you get along with your sibling(s), parent(s), or any other person you’ve known for a long time — if you only met them for the first time today?

 

It took months of fighting closed adoption records, filing court documents, and combing through the ancestry.com site before the first name came to light. I’d spent more than fifteen thousand dollars of my savings trying to find the sister I never knew I had. To say I felt the world tilt on its axis to discover I had two siblings instead of one would be an understatement.

I spread the pictures  and information across my dining room table. Straight from Google, Facebook, and LinkedIn,  I’d gathered the latest photographs. My hands trembled as I read, highlighting the fine print on each printout. Are they anything like me? Would we have anything in common?

Sarah – lives in California, married with three grown children, two grandchildren, retired from… hmm doesn’t say.  Oh, she’s writer, like me. I made a note to research publications. Political views: Democrat, Religion: Agnostic. Ugh.

Melba – small town not far from me, divorced with two children, one grandchild. Nothing on work. Political views: Democrat, Religion: Baptist. Oh Good Lord, she must be into a ton of cause crap. Every banner known to man is on her FB page. 

I leaned back in my chair and stared at their faces. I could see the resemblance physically, but the more I read on their numerous public profiles, the more digging I did, the photos I pulled up, I saw less and less we had in common. My God, I was a conservative, southern woman, Republican, a christian, and believed in traditional family values. And, unless it was supporting the Constitution or curing cancer, don’t call me about a cause.

I wasn’t so sure anymore we would get along or like each other should we meet. Just because we had the same genetic makeup? The sum of who we are is more than genetics. Hell, we’re all in our late fifties and early sixties. Would they be up for some healthy debates? Cause I could definitely see some in our future.