Don’t you hate it when someone puts you on the spot with an unexpected invitation? I do and like many people tend to fall back on the old reliable, “Maybe.”
It’s a word (answer) we believe will help get us out of making a decision or a commitment we’re certain, in the back of our minds, we aren’t, can’t, or won’t keep. We don’t want to hurt feelings so, “Maybe” gives us a way out. Only, it’s not a way out; it’s indecision.
“Decision is a sharp knife that cuts clean and straight. Indecision a dull one that hacks and tears and leaves ragged edges behind it.” Gordon Graham Tweet this
Now, I’m not preaching to the choir or holding myself up as a decision guru. When I worked, my decisions were quick and decisive, but take me out to dinner and this is what my decisions look like.”Maybe” has been my fall guy for many years.
“Maybe” has been my fall guy for many times. But, here’s the thing, it also leaves jagged edges behind.
Invitations stop, projects lay unfinished, and feelings are hurt. As I’ve gotten older, I do my best, to be honest with myself and say, “no” instead of “maybe.” It isn’t always easy, but I have encouragement from one of my all-time favorite resources – a book by Manuel J. Smith, Ph.D.
“You have the right to say, really No, without feeling guilty.” Manuel J. Smith Ph.D. Tweet this
The next time you’re tempted to say “maybe” want to say, “No” – be true to yourself; you have that right.
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