I’m a Nurse, a Wife, a Mother, an Accountant, a Teacher, on and on we describe ourselves when someone ask us “What do you do?”. What they mean, of course, is “What is your profession?”. We often, particularly, as women, identify ourselves, with our vocation, our profession. It becomes our identity so that when we lose it, either through job loss, disability, like I did, or other reasons, we suffer from an identity crisis. For some, that is never an issue because they know what and who they are. There is no quibbling, no question, no hesitation. They state it with passion, with conviction and in way that those around take notice. So it was with Cynthia. Yes she was a nurse, a damn good one. However, that is not how she identified herself. On one of the multitudes of sympathy cards her family received, a woman who had met Cynthia many years ago at their children’s middle school football game, shared she overheard a conversation between Cynthia and some other women on what a stay at home mom should say when ask the question “What do you do?”. Cynthia’s reply, as relayed in this card, had a profound impact on her and she has never forgotten it. Cynthia replied, emphatically and with great passion,”I am an advocate for my family!”. She never wavered in support of her family, often neglecting her own needs. She knew who she was, what she wanted to do and she made no apologies. Her family was her life. What a wonderful legacy! “I am an advocate for my family”! she stated proudly, and so she was.